Calling All Moms...
Elise is 19 months old. She brings so much joy to our lives. She is a very silly little girl and is constantly making us laugh. She is very playful and is always on the go. I love her so much and thank God for entrusting her to us.
BUT, she has been driving me crazy lately! She is a little stinker and is already testing us to see what she can get away with. So, because I am a first time mother, I am asking for advice from all you veterans out there. We are having biting, pinching, and standing up on all things dangerous issues. Any practical advice on how to deal with this at her age?
Don't let that smile fool you!
posted by kkoois @ 2:27 PM
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Hey Kim. I know I'm not a mom but I do know a little about parenting.
Thought 1: About time! She's 19 mos old she should have been bugging you 3-4 months ago.
Thought 2:This is normal!!! This is part of her exploring her environment and learning about herself and her limits. Physical, emotional and social limits. You need to use this time to teach her these limits. Do not let the limits slide!!!
Thought 3: The only kids I see who do not go through this phase either don't care about social limits(e.g. autistic or elim) or have never met a limit(e.g.spoiled)
Thought 4: If she is anything like you or your sister she'll be just as manipulative so be ready and try and stay one step ahead.
Thought 5: Don't be afraid to say no and let her throw the fit that will wake the neighbors. Kids can smell fear and know how to use it better than a jackal
Thought 6: Christine just read this and reminded me she was premature so that would make her right on time.
Ummm. . .yeah. What he said. Except the manipulative Auntie Jen part.
She's a great kiddo and will have Amelia to keep her company in juvy.
I also will go out on a limb here and say that I'm not a backer of the smack-the-hand plan~much to the dismay of my in-laws. In my experience, they just hit back and it escalates the issue. My faves are a firm NO and distraction.
Doug!! Glad to have a doctor answering me!
Here are my responses to your responses:
Thought 1: She has been bugging me for months.
Thought 2: Totally get all that.
Thought 3: I hope she is neither of those.
Thought 4: Shut it.
Thought 5: Totally not afraid to say no. Trust me, she does throw fits and I let her. Jackal - good way to describe her. The problem is when I do say no she laughs at me and thinks its a funny game. What do I actually DO at that point?
Thought 6: Yes, premature, but making up groud quickly.
P.S. How often is giving Benedryl before bed TOO often?????
Doctor's wife here...
Parenting one-year-olds is like running a marathon at a sprints pace! Two-Year-Olds are so much nicer in my opinion. There is something about this age from 19-23 months when they can't talk but they can move and think and whine and scream and follow you really welll.
I think you will have plenty of opportunities to teach her to be afaid of you later, if you tell her no and she starts to laugh and gets distracted...laugh with her at that point it's over. Hallelujah!
PS: Benedryl good! Benedryl is very good!
Christine made 2 great points! First, at this age you will never get them to understand the moral depravity of what they have done wrong. So don't try. Just shoot for getting her to stop dumping out the dog bowl this time, and given enough repeats she'll get it. If you tell her to stop coloring the TV and she laughs, but stops coloring the TV you won. second, Benadryl good.
What a sweet little face...she must take after her daddy. :P
I'll get caught up on you one of these days, Kim...right now, I have to go to the library with 3 kids...ugh!
Oh, ran into Nat and her kids at Meijer a couple of weeks ago...she looks the same as ever!
hi kim!
i'm afraid i don't have any advise for you, not being a mother myself, but i've been meaning to post a comment to say hi for awhile now. so.. hi. :)
i hope you and jer are doing well! i'm excited to see you again. and elise. and i AM fooled by that picture. what a doll.
- josh's girlfriend sara.
Hi, I am Josh's girlfriend Sara's mom. I was checking our Sara's BLOG and saw that you commented on her recent post. I really didn't want to get busy cleaning, so I thought I would take a look at your BLOG. Even when your little one is 26 you will want to know her friends!
About the biting and pinching ... there is probably some psycologist out there that would like to have me arrested but ... have you tried "kindly" biting and/or pinching her right after she has done it. The word NO should be added. She doesn't really understand that she is inflicting pain. You could always wait for some other child to bite her back. That may not be done quite as "kindly"!
If you check with Sara I think you will find that she doesn't even remember when we had to give her a BITE!
Have FUN, being a mom is THE BEST!
Julie
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